Tell a Better Story

Susan Donnelly at one of her happy places

“I’m slow.”

That’s the story many runners tell me about themselves when we’re first introduced.

Yes, that.

We all tell stories about ourselves, of course, but some stories serve us while others hold us back. 

Think about how you describe yourself to yourself in your mind, and to others.

What’s your story?

Does it make you feel excited about going to a race, or like staying home because you'll embarrass yourself?

If your story makes you hesitate, doubt yourself, or quit - anything negative - it doesn’t serve you.

And you can change it.

I’m not talking about telling me a fake-happy, “I’m fast,” while inside you’re sneering, “Yeah, right!”

I’m talking about changing it.

Think about your story. Why you’re slow, how long you’ve been slow, and how awful it is in races. All of it.

Then take the same circumstances - facts like races and times - and tell the story as a grand adventure saga with you as the hero.

For example, your story might be, “I’m too slow to finish the race.”

If you tell it like Joan of Arc facing the English army, you’re the hero daring the impossible with the crazy real chance of finishing the race. 

Even though you haven’t gotten any faster or slower. 

The facts are all the same, so both stories are equally correct.

The only thing that changes between the two is the way you see yourself.

And the way you see yourself matters tremendously because you live up to it.

If you see yourself as a failure, you’ll continue to fail.

If you see achieving against the odds, you’ll keep improving.

Your results - your life - depend on your story, so tell a better - truer - story.

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